Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Looking for Love Online During the Holidays

By Anne Patrick

The holiday festivities are almost upon us. If you are not with someone, you may be thinking about finding someone to enjoy your holiday time with. Some may turn to internet dating as a way to advance the process of finding a special love interest. Some people may be judgmental in saying that a few months is not long enough to be bringing someone to the company Christmas party, but, like anything else, you must decide what is right for you! Spending time with someone during the holidays can actually give you good insight into what a person is really like

What Can You Learn About Someone During This Time

Are Kids a Priority? - A child's excitement around the holidays adds to enjoyment. How will your dating partner act around children? This often indicates whether the person likes children and is willing to interact with them.

Family & Friend Interaction- How will they act around the loved ones currently in your life if you take them along to a gathering? Will they interact with your family and friends or not participate in discussions or make small talk? If they are uncomfortable with those close to you, that should raise a red flag. Are they possessive? Or overly shy?

Being Reliable - - We all know how much time can be spent preparing for a party, especially for areas like the menu. On top of this there are other considerations: Do you have to purchase special evening wear? Hire a sitter? Can you count on the person who is supposed to go with you to show up and in a timely manner? Do they have good judgement and taste in what they choose to wear? You don't want a love interest who you cannot depend on.

Abuse of Substances - Having a few holiday drinks aside, but they may be using the holidays as an excuse - I doubt anyone reading this would want to spend their holidays, much less their life, with an addict.

Gift Exchange - You may have only known this person a few months, how would you feel with the gift exchange issue? . Would you have this figured out between the two of you beforehand? In my opinion, if you've been finding joy in the person's company, there is nothing wrong with presenting the other person with a small token, nothing major - but it is the season of giving!. Which brings us to our next point...

Spending During a Recession - There is currently a recession, and the holidays are not going to make that go away. Nevertheless, people still want to enjoy the holidays, but will scale back spending on celebrations. Will your partner be ok without splurging?? Are they empathetic to others? Maybe you volunteer your time at a shelter or kitchen - would they help out??

Put Any Heightened Expectations Aside

It is important to remember that these ARE the holidays, a time of added stress. Truthfully, the holidays can be downright depressing. Your partner could have a lot on their plate. So, don't make the mistake of expecting your love interest to be constantly keeping your happy and entertained.

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